Ya I think you may find that to be fairly usual not just in our community but probably with most fetishes as well. I know a combination of that shame and not feeling like I had much to contribute kept me from attempting to get involved in the community for the longest time. Don’t let that shame deter you though. This community is all about being able to talk and work with like minded individuals, and no one will judge you here for what you prefer.
I have to say I love your superhero idea though. I look forward to hearing more about her ( I know you have another post up but I have not been able to read it yet DX )